January 9, 2012

Please don’t judge me

Filed under: Now Surviving — by alifefullofspice @ 6:41 pm

I have accepted the fact that I need to leave my children alone to get on with their lives. I accept the fact that for my own sanity and health I need to leave me children alone. It doesn’t mean I love them any less, it doesn’t mean that I don’t feel the pain of separation. So many people are quick to judge me because I am a mother without her children. I shouldn’t have to explain myself or justify me actions.

More needs to be done to make Parental Alienation more widely recognised hopefully then so many parents and children would be sparred the pain and heartache it causes and wouldn’t be judged.



  1. This sounds a difficult thing to be going through. We judge absent mothers far quicker than absent fathers, because women are ‘supposed’ to be maternal and born to be ‘mothers’. I cant judge you, because I dont know your story. But I hope you find peace, and I hope things get easier. xxx

    Comment by katieinwonderlandx — January 9, 2012 @ 11:46 pm |Reply

  2. Great post. I think people judge because they want their own life to be free of hurt, hassle, pain, or stories like ours. no one can know the real pain we go through unless they have experienced it themselves. Through empathy we can share others pain and let them know we love them unconditionally. Too much has gone on I parental alienation. We work tirelessly trying to educate parents, children and the family law system. May I be old enough to say that I think you are a great parent and on the right track. You are bold, loving and I admire your strength under hardship.

    Comment by Matt Sutton — January 10, 2012 @ 2:08 am |Reply

  3. You are a beautiful, loving, brave woman. Keep trying to connect with your children. do not give in. do not believe you should stay apart from them. See dr. childress article on children brain development, dr. warshak’s Welcome Back Pluto, Dr. Bone’s videos and new book, and Dr. Otis advice.

    Comment by Sherry Palmer — January 21, 2012 @ 1:32 am |Reply

    • Thank you for your kind words. My ex has now moved house and I can no longer apply to the courts as my boys made it clear at the last hearing they don’t wish to see me. I keep them in my thoughts and love them with all my heart but I have to keep hopeful that once they are free from their father they will want to contact me. Until that day and beyond I will do my very best to save others from the heartache that comes with Parental Alienation.

      Comment by startingmyjourney — January 21, 2012 @ 2:07 am |Reply

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