October 19, 2011

I’d hate me too

Filed under: Now Surviving — by alifefullofspice @ 8:00 am

Yesterday I found out some of the lies that have been fed to my children by the father. Some of them made me sick to my stomach. Now I understand why when they were interviewed for my final court hearing they told Cafcass that they hated me. I’m sure if I had been fed such lies by a parent that I loved and trusted I would feel they same as my children.
It also confirms what I have always feel about parental alienation that it is child abuse. My children have been made to believe that I abused them, that must cause them a great deal of distress thinking they have been abused. As a child abuse survivor myself I understand the long term psychological damage abuse can cause. The fact my children think I abused them destroys the hope I had that one day they will want to meet me because I know I never want to meet me abusers ever again.



  1. a great post, I remember when I found that exact same thing, it both devastated me and also didn’t surprise me cause it gave me direct proof of what had been happening. stay strong

    Comment by matt335 — October 19, 2011 @ 8:57 am |Reply

    • Thank you. It pains me to think my children are living with the belief that they have been abused.

      Comment by startingmyjourney — October 19, 2011 @ 11:19 pm |Reply

      • I know and I hope I am not sounding obvious or patronizing. Coupled with the loss, separation we experience it hurts. It takes time to feel the pain and then let it go. I’m no expert. But it helps to look back sometimes for me to see how far I have come with the parental alienation. I hope you are well.

        Comment by matt335 — October 19, 2011 @ 11:25 pm

  2. Sadly, false allegations of abuse are standard operating procedure in these cases. I faced them too.

    If you get a second, check out our website at I’m confident there is information and resources that you’ll find helpful.

    Hang in there…

    Comment by Mike Jeffries — October 23, 2011 @ 11:47 am |Reply

    • Thank you I shall check out the website. I should think myself lucky because no allegations have ever been made my ex has just told my children I did horrible things.

      Comment by startingmyjourney — October 24, 2011 @ 7:12 am |Reply

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